Asking for What You Want

Asking for What You Want

Asking for what you want from your beloved is one of the conditions of getting loved. If you don’t ask and she’s not a mind reader, the chances of getting what you want are infinitesimal.
Asking of course requires knowing what you want so that you can ask. And knowing what you want also includes being aware of what you don’t want – the kinds of behaviours that hurt, irritate, or offend you. Telling your sweetheart what pleases you and what doesn’t is precisely the communication that can strengthen the bonds of your relationship.
So take a risk today by telling the person you love exactly what you want and don’t want. And return the favour by asking him, “What would you like me to give you?” and, perhaps even more important, “What would you like me to refrain from doing around you?”

                                                 Daphne Rose Kingma

In human relationships communication is key, and not only between lovers. This week ask a beloved person for what you want (or don’t want), and return the favour. Openness does not always come easy, but it creates trust and deepens our love and care for each other.