Respond with Kindness

AA wrote: Oui, tu as mille fois raison, ne pas réagir à chaud, attendre que son égo ne soit plus blessé… C’est parfois difficile mais on peut toujours pardonner et comme tu le suggères, approcher la personne et en parler.

BB wrote: This is perfect!

Respond with Kindness

Try responding only when your heart is open and kind. When you don’t feel this way, wait and let the difficult feeling pass.

                                                                 Jack Kornfield: A Path With Heart

People often talk without reflecting, and sometimes they say things that hurt us. Then our ego immediately reacts; we get all upset and want to blurt out a harsh answer. 

Thats the point where we should remember to STOP. What’s the use of escalating things? Words are like a little wind blowing outside our window; we don’t have to take them so seriously. We know who we are, words don’t change that. If there is any real truth hidden behind the hurting remark or if it really needs a response, we should wait until we’re not upset anymore. 

With an open heart we can approach the other person calmly, tell her how her remark hurt us and ask her why she said it. That might even be the beginning of a fruitful dialogue.